If you are a single or engaged lady, you should read this.
When I see how some men treat women and get away with it, it breaks my heart, and I have only myself to blame.
In the beginning, God created the woman to play a special role in the life of the man. God did not create women as an afterthought. The fact that you want to express your feelings to your husband does not mean that you should express your feelings to every man who enters your life.
You are not obligated to devote your entire life to Tim, Dick, and Harry just because you are commanded to submit to your husband. Choose wisely, a man worthy of your submission, to avoid marriage regrets.
What exactly am I not supposed to be for a man?
- Avoid acting as a choice.
Some men engage in “double dating,” which involves engaging in a committed relationship with one woman while simultaneously courting another.
If the main girl denies him some rights, he will run to the alternative or available one.
When he tells you that he prefers you to the other, you’ll know that you’re just a choice or a person who is available in his life. An honest man won’t go on two dates at once or rob Peter to pay Paul.
Instead of being an option, make yourself a treasure.
- Avoid being the available girl.
The readily available one is easy to obtain; it will only take a little money or flattery to win her heart, but the ideal match for his life is frequently challenging to locate.
The suitable one is the type he would pay her dowry and the necessary items to get her legally recognized as his wife. The available one can visit his home on the weekends.When you don’t know what you want or haven’t found the meaning of life, you’ll make yourself available. When you wait for the appropriate opportunity and don’t know what parts you are supposed to play in a man’s life, you become accessible.
- Don’t act as his test tube.I have no idea where some males received the information that the body stores extra sperm. In actuality, the body recycles unused sperm. When he exclusively visits you for sex, you’ll turn into his test tube while you shyly think you are doing him a favor. Who misled you into thinking that he gets his stomach ache relieved by having sex?You see, educated people like to poke fun at foolish women.
- Don’t provide him with a way to sate his sexual inclinations.Men are said to have a higher sex desire than women. Whatever the situation, don’t act as a conduit for him to sate his drive to procreate.Some guys would only declare their love for you if they wanted to have sex with you. Don’t be stingy, my love.Think of yourself as God does—His temple, not a sex item.
- Don’t be a “fish brain”
Some men have concluded that some women have fish brain. But I disagree and agree in some sense.
I disagree because some women are smart, and they act like a man both emotionally and mentally. They’re fast thinkers – proactive and see things from a logical perspective.In another sense, I agree since some women are simply overly emotional. They think with their hearts instead of their heads. They let their emotions guide them without taking reality into account.Some guys will take advantage of you if you become a fish brain lady by being easy to manipulate. “Act like a girl, but think like a guy,” as Steve Covey’s book title suggests.
- Don’t serve as his ATM.
Some men will lie or offer you heaven and earth only to obtain what they want from you. A true guy uses both his hands and his thoughts. It is not a crime to assist a guy in need, but when that assistance becomes an obligation, you become his “ATM.” Some males are really lazy. They exist in real life just like they do in movies. He is unable to work but want to benefit from the fruits of your labor. Any man who relies on you for a living has already designated you as his “ATM.” Don’t expect him to change if you marry him; he’ll only become a liability – a wheelbarrow husband.
- Don’t be his wife if he hasn’t met you yet.
Some women believe that once they are in a relationship with a guy, they must instantly adopt the role of his wife. Being engaged does not imply that you are wedded to him. A man will carry you because of how you treat yourself. He will never consider you worthwhile if you make yourself cheap. Don’t act like a wife just because he promised you marriage or put a ring on your finger. “I will marry you” is not the same as his taking the marriage vows in front of his friends and family. Don’t create your life with him if he keeps you out of his life. Don’t act as if you’re his wife while he hasn’t legally made you his wife. If he hasn’t paid your dowry, a proposal isn’t marriage, and neither is an introduction or a court marriage. Stop treating him like a wife while he still sees you as a girlfriend.