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Listen to this article1. Reliability
Be considerate all the time; don’t only be thoughtful when you want sex. Don’t just be excellent at discussions today and terrible tomorrow. Be dependable.
2. Resilience
Don’t hurry talk with your spouse. Consider your partner’s speed. Don’t talk quickly to accomplish a selfish purpose; this requires two people.
3. Direct contact
Touch each other when you’re close enough. You two become closer when you hold hands, snuggle, lay on your chest, play with your fingers, and rub each other’s skin.
4. Reconciliation and forgiveness
Your partner will feel that you care when you apologize for your errors. You give your partner the impression that you still want to be a couple by forgiving them.
5. Kind, not judgmental responses
Never respond angrily to a topic posed by your spouse with phrases like “How many times do I need to tell you?” or “How stupid can you be?” A harsh response will humiliate your husband and cause problems.
6. Make no inferences
Bring an open mind to the conversation with your spouse and avoid speaking with preconceived notions that will prevent you from hearing their point of view.
7. Listening more than talking
Keep in mind that a conversation is not only about you. You should each give the other a chance to speak without dominating the conversation so that both of you feel heard.
8. Warm and welcoming tone
You two must extend an invitation to speak. Asking each other, hugging or kissing them, using a sweet name like “Hi love,” being hospitable, and asking each other how their day was.
9. Kind inquiries rather than probing ones
The talks are maintained via questions. Make sure that when you inquire, you come across as kind and curious rather than interrogative, suspicious, or condescending.
10. Laughter
Humour adds enjoyment to the chats and prevents you two from getting too intimate. Be at ease with one another;
11. Avoid bringing up the past.
Don’t keep moving forward and then take two steps back by bringing up old problems in new interactions. It is exhausting. But also remember to resolve difficulties when you and your partner talk about them rather than leaving them open-ended
12. No derision or denigration of the other
Do not belittle or malign one another. Be a grownup. Be respectful. This is an act of love, not combat.
13. No stereotypes, please
Don’t make assumptions about your spouse’s gender, level of education, financial situation, family history, or tribe, or by using phrases like “People like you don’t get it.”
14. No fear or condemnation.
Assure your partner that you two may discuss any topic, no matter how challenging, and that you won’t retaliate. Your partner will feel more at ease talking to you if you do that.
15. Generous language
Use phrases like “thank you,” “please,” “what are your opinions on this?” and “I’m sorry for upsetting you.” Your partner feels appreciated as a result. People frequently return to talks in which they feel appreciated.
